MY PRESENT TO YOU!!!
How many of you feel as though this Christmas or the holidays will be really good this year?
What are you dreading?
What are you looking forward to?
What are you thankful for this year?
What changed in your life this year?
Did anything happen good or bad?
Do you ever notice usually when you see a post it is about always feeling good, or letting go of anger, negativity, a person who was our person? Why is it that we have to be happy all the time?
Do you ever just give it up and say ok, I’m clearly not in control of my life and seriously I don't want to be.
Too many events happen in our lives and possibly we feel like why did that happen?
I sear if one more person that I am a strong person for surviving all of life journeys I am going to snap.
You must understand where I am coming from.
Has your life always been happy? Of course not.
How can we be good at life when we don't have life experience.
Believe me I know. So, aggravating. Right!
The one thing I can tell you is that all of us have choices. We can choose to live like victims and sit in our rooms and feel sorry for ourselves, and yes, I know this is where you are possibly saying, you have no idea what you are talking about. Another thought you might be having is you have no idea what I have been through in my life. Your right. I don't.
You could be the other person that says well I have had a really good life so far. I went to school got good grades, university married with two kids and a white picket fence and have no regrets. Or do you? Then the other person would say I have had a bit of both where it’s great. Well maybe not great but what is life without life's incidents.
Funny thing is, is I just went through a really rough traumatic "incident" where I ended up in Royal Columbian Hospital with a fractured skull, broken nose, bruised ribs, bleeding on the brain, and much more. What I am trying to say is, who would have thought that finally at my age things would settle down and I would be retiring early and not having to worry about much of anything. Well F.... that! So again, I can choose to be one of the above mentioned people. If I were to give in to this unrelenting fear, the migraines, concussion, sore body, where would that leave me. I’ve worked to damn hard to get to where I am. Yes, I have nightmares, I jump when I hear something that I am not used to hearing. But I will be damned if those F...ers are stealing my life.
You with me?
You have worked too hard to get to where you are. Would you really consider throwing it all away and just settling for ok well I guess this is what life is going to be like forever. F... NO!! You’re not.
Let's do this together.
So many life skills that we can work on together. You're never alone. Tools that will take you form being happy to happier or from can I do this to wow I’m really glad I reached out.
I’m just sitting here waiting. Email me. What do you have to lose? Not a Freakin’ thing.
No pressure ok well maybe a little. But somebody has to kick your butt.
Let’s make these holidays something that you will remember for a very long time. This year we are breaking those crappy habits and setting the stage for the NEW Year.
You are WORTH this and so much more.
My present to you.
Learning From Our Emotional Triggers and Self Growth
By Laura Mass
Reviewed By: Jennifer Peacock-Vauthrin R.P.C. M.P.C.C.
Every one of us have emotional triggers but when and where did they begin? Surprisingly, these triggers rarely spontaneously occur. They are cued by a spark of intense emotional reaction, to something in our internal (thoughts or feelings) or external (stressful event) environment. Emotional triggers are associated with varying degrees of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) – I.e. from a small child being abandoned to the stress of soldiers of war. They are not bound by time, age, sex, religion, nor lifestyle; they are suppressed emotional wounds.
Because of the emotions can be uncomfortable or even paralyzing, by identifying, naming, and learning specific coping skills, we can take steps to limit the full impact of those triggers. Let us take the opportunity to “check-in” with ourselves, reflect, get the help we need and be provided with managing skills to move forward to reclaim your life – on your terms, not the emotions.
For the change to take place within us, we need to be open to seeing things differently. I know it maybe difficult, however, let take a step back from the emotions and truly focus on the triggers. Here we will learn “Identify the triggers” and “Triggers for growth”.
Emotional energy itself is neutral. It is the feeling sensation and physiological reaction, which makes a specific emotion positive or negative. The feeling itself is what one labels as anger, sadness, joy or fear. It is then that the interpretations or thoughts about the emotional energy which give it meaning. It is the emotions which serves as the carrier of these waves for the entire spectrum of feelings. By understanding that emotions are energy, this implies that they are fluid, always moving, meant to be felt and released. If the energy is suppressed and ignored, the true culprit originates from low emotional intelligence and stress burnout – in other words, the inability to accurately perceive emotions, in both yourself and others.
Below is a guide which you will do for straight 7 days, I will ask that you email me, at Jennifer@SoulutionsCounselling.com, your main trigger and we will then book a free consultation for after your 7 days.
Of course, it takes time and practice to learn how to transform the triggers into something positive. Doing the cognitive work does pays off. By addressing the triggers and discovering a new way to relate to them, we can drastically reduce their occurrences because you will start to heal the root wound that caused them in the first place.
Learning from your triggers and growing because of them is a natural process. That means, when it doesn’t feel right, don’t push yourself to address your triggers head on. Again, creating space and learning how to re-associate with your triggers is key. Go slowly and remember that the work you do will benefit everyone, including those you love the most.