Do you ever wonder why that things seem to end in destructive outcomes in your life?
By Laura Mass Reviewed By: Jennifer Peacock-Vauthrin R.P.C. M.P.C.C.
When you think emotionally, your past may be sabotaging your present.
Unfortunately, self-sabotage is more prevalent than we realize; what’s worse is that it can lead to destructive outcomes in both our personal and processional lives. Once this habit is acknowledged as an issue, you know something needs to be “nipped in the behind” because it cannot continue.
You see self-sabotage interferes with our daily personal lives by creating a bottle neck. The inability to move forward, and most of all, being happy and content in one’s life. We feel like crap, have negative and unproductive thoughts, and have self doubt in our abilities; the support system you knew, you have forgotten. By working with a counsellor, you will recognize the triggers, use your new tools, and can largely reduce or stop the vicious cycle all together.
Why is there a huge link to fear and have a fear of success? It’s common for insecurities and self-limiting beliefs to surface when we approach something we truly desire in our life. The fear is centred on the potential consequence of, not the goals but the success. The expectations of success are based on the idea that achieving one’s goals means making sacrifices or enduring losses, it is perhaps not surprising that people may be wary of what success might ultimately cost them.
The new arsenal will not only increase the compassion and kindness you show yourself but, also give you the tools to support others and encourage themselves to stop the destructive behaviour.
SELF-SABOTAGE IN RELATIONSHIPS
Although the reasons for sabotaging relationships are complex, the origins are rooted in emotional experiences, often from childhood, that affect our self-perception. By acknowledging the self-destructive behaviour, this is where the journey begins.
The various forms of sabotaging relationships can include choosing partners with different values, picking fights or by refusing to fully commit to relationships.
Other forms include holding unrealistic expectations, inability to trust, suppressing the self, and losing yourself in the relationship.
The most effective strategy for dealing with relationship issues is through Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. As a registered therapist, I am here to help you learn to identify, question, and change how the thoughts, attitudes and beliefs relate to the emotional and behavioural reactions that cause the difficulty. The benefits of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy include:
- Goal-oriented and problem-focused therapy - Treatments tend to range between five to 20 sessions - Highly engaging - Holds the patient accountable for the therapeutic outcome - The idea is centered around that one’s emotions and thoughts are responsible for how they behave and feel - Improves our emotional regulation - Improves the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems
I look forward to guiding you through your journey by healing the past and working on our creating the best healthy version of yourself.